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Why We Stay With People Who Hurt Us
To reveal why we stay in painful relationships, Thomas Fiffer unmasks three unfair ‘trades’ that keep us bound. ___ When we remain in an unhealthy relationship, we believe we are waiting for our...
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You’re Only As Troubled As The Relationship You’re In
Meet Steven. Steven has decided to become a psychoanalyst. Before starting class, the graduate school requires students to spend a year in therapy. Six months in, Steven was doing well. He showed...
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6 Ways I Made it Hard for My Partner to Love Me—and How I Plan to Change
Embed from Getty Images — After a recent relationship ended, I had to think long and hard about what went wrong, and why. I could see there had been some patterns in how we related which were all too...
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Spock Set Me Up to Love Emotionally Unavailable Men
Embed from Getty Images When I say I was madly in love with Spock, I don’t mean that charmingly not-weird-enough Spock from the new Star Trek movies (though Zachary Quinto is totally still super hot)....
View ArticleYour Attachment Style Influences the Success of Your Relationship
Embed from Getty Images By Marni Feuerman, LCSW, LMFT Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was emotionally unavailable? What about someone who was emotionally exhausting? People give...
View ArticleAn Introduction to Attachment Theory
Embed from Getty Images — For the individual who consistently attracts unavailable partners, or for the person who finds themselves in relationships with “needy” people, I highly recommend diving into...
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The Importance of Taking Space in Relationships [Video]
Embed from Getty Images — In this video, Kendra Cunov discusses the practicality of taking space in relationship. She asks us to consider how we can bring this into our relationship with others and...
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Why Does Conflict Escalate Between Men and Women?
— A couple are having an argument, the woman is hurt and angry. Her husband/partner can clearly see she’s upset, and her tears make him surprisingly uncomfortable. While he would like to feel empathic,...
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7 Ways I Show My Husband I Love Him
— Last week, I wrote, “7 Ways My Husband Shows Me He Loves Me.” In truth, Philippe requested a list from me and was delighted I wrote and published it. One reader asked about the other side of the...
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The Attachment Theory: How Childhood Shapes Your Life
— If our bonding is strong and we are securely attached, then we feel safe to explore the world. If our bond is weak, we feel insecurely attached. We are afraid to leave or explore a rather...
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The Challenges of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
— Learn to know which of these two you might be – and how better to handle the tensions that arise in a pairing with your counterpart. There are so many ways to be unhappy in love, but one kind which...
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Relationship Alive! Don’t Be A Victim of Attachment Theory
— We’re all talking about attachment style now, and how it relates to the way that we show up in a relationship. It can be enlightening to learn about your attachment style, and to see how it plays out...
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What Types of Attachment Are Healthy and Unhealthy in Relationships?
Attachment theory is fascinating and showcases how our childhood can affect our adult relationships. How you bonded with your parents or caregivers can tell you if you’re going to be secure in your...
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Attachment Issues in Relationships
Everyone has had an attachment to someone in their lives. In fact, that bond we get as an infant with our parents or caregivers is the first one. It is this first experience that creates what type of...
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Living With Fearful Avoidant Attachment
Attachment theory helps us understand why some people are secure, why some people are clingy, and why others seem to be afraid of commitment. Today, we will be looking at the later, which is the...
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How To Identify Someone With an Avoidant Attachment Style
In the 1950s, British psychologist and psychiatrist John Bowlby developed the attachment theory, by observing the lifelong impact of the earliest bonds formed in life: the ones between children and...
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The Beauty of Taking
Home from the hospital after a four-day stay to clear up some lung yukkiness. Easing back into a routine that is unfamiliar but necessary. I took a week off of work as a psychotherapist who offers...
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Is Your Relationship All Structure and No Security?
Do you want to have a secure relationship? Of course you do. Nobody wants to feel insecure about the person they are planning to spend the rest of their life with. Okay then, let’s ask a different...
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